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1. Communicate Your Concerns
A little preparation will help a lot. One of the common misconceptions is that anal sex will hurt, weaken or damage the anal muscles. People have enjoyed anal sex for many years without ever causing damage. The way they do that is by never going further than what feels good. You can do something else on those occasions and have anal sex another time. There are a few different reasons why anal sex might not feel good. One of the most common ones is a stingy or friction sensation. Adding more lube will make it feel much better, so don't hesitate. Back off and go with something smaller, like one less finger or a smaller toy. While it might seem like a good idea to use a numbing cream to reduce the discomfort from anal sex, it can actually increase the odds of hurting yourself.
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Going from having nothing up your ass ever to suddenly a whole penis can be jarring in many ways. The rumors are true: Anal does have the possibility of getting messy. If you want extra peace of mind, make sure the surface you and your partner engage on is comfortable and washable. Sure, the idea of a numbing cream that protects you from feeling any potential pain during anal is nice, but the risk for injury down the line is not worth it. Take any pressure to perform off yourself by trying penetrative anal sex alone first. Get a toy and a condom for easier cleanup and go at your own pace. Either way is a hundred percent fine, and if he keeps pressuring you when you have made it clear that it is not on the table, tell him to suck it. Before embarking on the full monte of penetrative anal sex, you can—and should! This is open to interpretation and could mean anything from toys to fingers or mouths. Or not!
More young women than ever—45 percent—are trying anal, according to the latest research from the Kinsey Institute. If you're considering having anal sex for the first time, you're probably wondering how to prepare, relax, and enjoy the intimate moment with your partner. We called in the experts: Rachel Needle , Psy. The last thing you want to be before attempting anal is tense. If this is your first time trying anal sex, spend some time relaxing—take a hot bath, ask your partner to give you a sensual massage, heck, you can even meditate.